So I land on a social media post this morning and see a woman making a kissy face in her selfie with the headline “LADIES, KNOW YOUR WORTH!” And she continues to rant about how hard women have it and how women need to “band together…” (for the sake of feminism i gathered).

And I literally threw up in my mouth.

Ladies, stop posting “KNOW YOUR WORTH.”

It’s a battle cry for the mentally weak.

And, while you’re at it stop blaming men for your pay gap and every other dumpster fire in your life…

As if somehow you’re being under appreciated or under paid for a job or relationship you’re “too damn good for.”

This is the inherent problem with the feminist narrative.

It suggests that women are unable to build a life they truly deserve unless she takes out every other man in her pathway and declares “if you’re not a woman doing this too then you’re to blame.”

And it’s bullshit.

And if this has your panties in a bunch… good! I hope this next part stings, too…

You’re the one that’s delusional.

Not men.

Here’s why…

No one gives a damn how hard you think you have it.

No one wants to hear you whine and complain about “poor little me.”

And no one gives a fuck how you’ve “tried everything.”

You haven’t.

We both know it.

What the rest of us know is that you secretly don’t want to do the real work it takes to earn the skillset and knowledge to level up or overcome.

So you blame your boss, your upbringing, your parents, your lifestyle, your bank account, your race, the government, the karma gods.

Everyone else but yourself.

Which is why you’re still drinking mimosas on a Wednesday afternoon complaining about your mediocre situationship a year later.

That’s the cold, hard truth.

And you know it.

If you want to be taken seriously and gain more control over your life, great…

…rise on up from cloud seven, come join the rest of us on cloud nine…

…and stop screaming on the internet about “WORTH” when you know damn well you live and tolerate your own mediocre standards.

Mind blowing, I know.

So you have a choice…

You can flip into a downward dog and post selfies with the caption “KNOW YOUR WORTH” that earns you double taps from other feminist losers.

OR

You can go ahead and do the real work that makes you feel like an outsider in your own skin and create an empire of your own and a life where you set the terms….

Unapologetically.

Because that’s how a female actually changes the narrative…

Just so ya know.

With fire and love,

Erin