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“Something Was Missing” And How I Fixed It

by | Mar 21, 2023

I want you to know that even if you’re not the smartest…

Even if you’re not the strongest.

Even if you’re not the fastest.

You don’t have to be.

Because here’s the truth:

The only thing that’s going to separate you from everybody else is your willingness to show up and do the work.

Here’s how I know…

When I was about 38 years old I committed to figuring out why I never felt things were “right” with myself.

I always felt like “something was missing.”

Turns out… a shit ton was missing.

Before I realized this, I tried for years to “love myself” like all the gurus would say.

It never made any sense to me.

Because I didn’t.

I looked around and everybody else seemed to have everything figured out.

That made me upset because I didn’t know how to be that way.

It made me feel awkward.

It made me feel crazy.

It destroyed my self worth.

Ultimately leaving me powerless.

Why couldn’t I just figure out what everybody else already knows?

What was I doing wrong?

Was this just the way it was supposed to be?

These thoughts destroyed me and I found myself spinning deeper into a black hole.

So why did I consistently find myself in such a dark place of pointlessness, unhappiness, anger?

It was time to get brutally honest and let go of my ego.

I stripped myself from anything I thought would “make me happy.”

And you know what I found?

I was a liar.

I would commit to making positive changes and then tell myself lies to procrastinate.

Basically, I wasn’t living by MY OWN STANDARDS.

This is why I had zero respect for myself.

This is why I constantly looked for the approval of others.

This is why I couldn’t see anything through to the end.

What was the common denominator?


I was the reason I was disgusted with myself, unhappy, and filled with anxiety.

I was a blatant liar.

About everything.

Everything I claimed to be was absolute bullshit.

And worse, I felt hopeless to change.

Until I learned the concept that would alter my life forever.

True greatness can only be EARNED through HARD WORK and the pursuit of your true POTENTIAL.

Yes, even happiness.

Yes, even self worth.

Yes, even total belief in yourself.


Everywhere we look we’re saturated with solutions for feeling bad about ourselves.

This is how it sounds:

“You are worthy.”

“You are powerful.”

“You deserve to be happy.”

This year, if you do nothing else…

…entertain the idea that everything you’ve been told about happiness is WRONG…

And how misguided, confused, and full of shit MOST of the world is.

It’ll make your life better.

It will unlock a power within that you may not be able to even comprehend right now.

So, what am I saying here?

Doing the work was the best thing I ever did for myself.

I hope you find the courage to do the same.

With fire and love,


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